I didn’t inherit safety-so I became it.
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

I didn’t inherit safety-so I became it.

I grew up knowing what instability felt like—not just as a concept, but as a constant, gnawing presence. I knew the sound of hurried packing. I knew the sting of slammed doors. I knew how it felt to fall asleep in a house that didn’t feel safe. My childhood wasn’t rooted in warmth or security—it was…

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Born into Chaos, Built for Strength.
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

Born into Chaos, Built for Strength.

Childhood is supposed to be simple.

It’s supposed to be filled with belly laughs and scraped knees, bedtime stories and soft blankets, the kind of innocence where the biggest fear is whether the nightlight is bright enough…

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Redefining Myself at 30
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

Redefining Myself at 30

Turning 30 hit me harder than I expected. Not because of the number itself, but because it forced me to stop and really look at my life. And when I did, I realized something I’d been avoiding for years: somewhere along the way, I lost myself.

I became a mother young. I didn’t have much time

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Why Saying ‘No’ Might Be the Most Loving Thing You Do
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

Why Saying ‘No’ Might Be the Most Loving Thing You Do

For a long time, I lived as if my worth was measured by how much I could give away.

I said yes to everyone—because if I didn’t, what would they think?
That I wasn’t dependable?
That I wasn’t loving enough?
That I wasn’t “good” at this whole motherhood/wife/friend/human thing?…

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Signs of  burnout you could be ignoring.
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

Signs of burnout you could be ignoring.

For the moms who are tired of being “fine.”

It usually starts quietly.

You tell yourself you’re just tired, that everyone feels this way, that if you could just get through this week, you’d feel better. But weeks turn into months, and the exhaustion doesn’t fade—it settles in…

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The Invisible Job Description of the Default Parent
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

The Invisible Job Description of the Default Parent

No one hands you a contract for it.
No one announces when you’ve been promoted.
But somehow, somewhere along the way—you became the default parent.

The one who:

  • Remembers the dentist appointments

  • Knows the shoe sizes…..

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The Day I Realized I Was Running on Empty.
Rick Thomas Rick Thomas

The Day I Realized I Was Running on Empty.

It wasn’t one big dramatic breakdown.
It wasn’t even me yelling at my kids over something small (though I’d done that more often than I’d like to admit).

It was an ordinary Tuesday morning.
And it was the day I realized I had nothing left to give…

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